My friend Christina and I agree that being cozy is pretty much the greatest thing in the entire universe. I know this is a cooking blog, but I see no reason why we can’t also include recipes for how to make the finer things in life, no matter the ingredients:
1 blanket (soft)
1 cat (optional)
1 favorite movie
1 cup sleepytime tea
1 loved one (optional)
1 pair slippers
1 pillow (or 5)
Wrap lower half of body in blanket, upper half in pashmina. Place slippers on feet. Put one pillow behind head, others under knees or wherever you find most comfortable. Place tea on table close to you. Turn on tv and begin to play movie. Place optional cat and/or loved one in your lap or next to you, so their warmth may further add to the cozy. Lean back and enjoy. Aaaaaaaaaaaah!
And while we are on the subject of optional company, I would like to draw attention to the most depressing time of year: Now. January and February stretch long, vistaless and cold until finally rising into a wet, frustrating March. No stat holidays to be found. If you are single, and live alone, sometimes this time of year can bring you down and make you feel even more isolated. But hold on, because I find it glorious. Being alone is a skill, a pleasure, and a mirror: you have to get right with yourself in order to do it properly. Alone is not necessarily lonely. Give a shit about yourself enough to be able to do it and do it well. However if you are having trouble, feeling lonesome instead of enjoying solitude, try some of these tips I’ve collected over the years:
1. My dad used to say “there is not one feeling you can have that has not been felt before by someone at some time over thousands of years. No matter how nuanced, strange or unwelcome it is, it has been felt before”. So you are never alone: someone once knew EXACTLY how you feel right now.
2. Apart from does not mean not a part of. You are still in the world, you are just taking a solitary bit of space right now.
3. Find one thing that you love and spend time with it. A talent, a book, a bath, a painting, a photo, a building, a food, a drink, a sweater, a tree, a necklace, a magazine, a song. Sit with it and appreciate it.
4. Make a list of all the things you know you are good at. Then read it. Revel in your awesomeness.
5. Put on all your favorite, most expensive jewelry and a bathrobe, lay on the couch and pretend you’re Marie Antoinette.
6. Write the loneliness down and keep it – at some point you will be alone again and it will be good to know you’ve done it before and can do it again.
7. And of course, cook yourself a delicious meal incorporating all your favorite foods and herbs and tastes. Eat with your mouth open.
Stay cozy :)